In case you abide during this kingdom of reputation, you create not more negativity, not more pain, not more sadness. then you definitely dwell in a kingdom of nonresistance, a country of grace and lightness, freed from fight. everytime you are not able to do this, everytime you pass over that opportunity - both since you are usually not producing sufficient unsleeping presence to avoid a few routine and subconscious resistance development from coming up, or as the situation is so severe as to be totally unacceptable to you - you then are growing a few kind of ache, a few 138 form of ache. it could glance as though the location is developing the pain, yet finally this isn't so - your resistance is. Now this is your moment probability at quit: if you can't settle for what's open air, then settle for what's within. if you can't settle for the exterior situation, settle for the interior situation. this implies: don't face up to the ache. let it to be there. hand over to the grief, melancholy, worry, loneliness, or no matter what shape the soreness takes. Witness it with no labeling it mentally. include it. Then see how the miracle of hand over transmutes deep anguish into deep peace. this can be your crucifixion. permit it develop into your resurrection and ascension. i don't see how you can quit to discomfort. As you your self mentioned, agony is non-surrender. How may you hand over to nonsurrender? ignore give up for a second. whilst your ache is deep, all speak of quit will most likely look futile and meaningless besides. while your soreness is deep, you'll likely have a powerful urge to flee from it instead of quit to it. you do not need to suppose what you are feeling. What might be extra common? yet there is not any get away, no approach out. there are numerous pseudo escapes - paintings, drink, medicinal drugs, anger, projection, suppression, etc - yet they do not unfastened you from the ache. anguish doesn't curb in depth in case you make it subconscious. if you happen to deny emotional soreness, every little thing you do or imagine in addition to your relationships develop into infected with it. You broadcast it, so as to communicate, because the power you emanate, and others will choose it up subliminally. in the event that they are subconscious, they might even believe forced to assault or damage you in a roundabout way, otherwise you may well damage them in an subconscious projection of your discomfort. You allure and happen no matter what corresponds on your internal kingdom. whilst there isn't any manner out, there's nonetheless regularly a fashion via. So do not shy away from the discomfort. Face it. think it absolutely. think it - don't believe approximately it! exhibit it if worthwhile, yet do not create a script on your brain round it. supply your entire consciousness to the sensation, to not the individual, occasion, or state of affairs that turns out to have brought on it. do not allow the brain use the soreness to create a sufferer identification for your self out of it. Feeling sorry for your self and telling others your tale will continue you caught in ache. because it is very unlikely to break out from the sensation, the single hazard of switch is to maneuver into it; in a different way, not anything will shift. So provide the entire awareness to what you're feeling, and chorus from mentally labeling it.